“Mirror Mirror on the Wall….”
Hold a mirror in front of your face – is the person looking back at you doing all of the things that they really want do with their life? Do they want to climb the career ladder, lose weight, learn a language, be more confident? Are they heading in the right direction to achieve all of that?
No one cares about what is going to happen to you more than you do and you can make plans to ensure that you are in a position to make choices about how you live your life. Why would you ever expect someone else to plan your future for you? And even if they did, how can you be sure that their plans would meet with your approval?
‘A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear and see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you can be.’ Tom Landry
Current research from the CIPD and the ILM indicates that more than 80% of organisations use coaching with their employees – they do this because the impact that it has is worth the investment. The ILM make the point that coaching is about achieving high performance rather than addressing poor performance.
A qualified coach has some extremely well practised skills: listening and asking questions being two of the most important. When was the last time that someone gave you a really good listening to without judging you, or butting in or trying to tell you how much worse or better things are for them than they are for you?
A coach is absolutely non-judgmental: they will not share their opinion of your dreams, they will just help you to unpack them all and workout how you can achieve them for yourself – and more importantly if you really want to achieve them at all.
Coaching really is about looking in the mirror and deciding if you like what you see or if you might like to tweak a few bits here and there. “Mirror mirror on the wall….”
Penny Whitelock F(inst)LM